There are many virtuous pedophiles in the world. You probably know a few in your regular life. Because we mostly don’t tell anyone we are pedophiles, it’s difficult for people to ask us the questions they are curious about.
In the past we have tried to explain our situation via social media, but gradually social prejudice and mass reporting have made it impossible for regular members of the public to find us this way.
Our panel of VirPed forum members have all written on social media sites in the past about their life experiences and answered questions from the curious. If you ask a question here we will pass it on to them and share their answers on this page.
We don’t accept abusive or gotcha questions, and we can’t answer all of the questions we receive. We also can’t tell you whether you, personally, are a pedophile or not.
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Questions we’re currently answering
If our society, for whatever reasons, changed over time into accepting adult-child sexual and romantic relationships, would you still be opposed to sexual contact with children? I guess what I’m asking is: where does your [virtue] come from? Fear of judgement and punishment? Fear of hurting a kid for the rest of their lives?
from “Journalist”; answers coming on 28 April 2024
Are you around kids that you’re attracted to? Do you think it’s ok for you to be around kids that you fantasize about? I ask this in a non-judgemental way, so let me explain with an exemple: I am a grown woman and I wouldn’t like to be around someone that fantasizes about me unless that person is my partner, even if I’m 100% certain that they won’t abuse me, and I suppose I’d be extra uncomfortable if I had no idea that a certain person is fantasizing about me and I found out later. How do you navigate those kinds of situations? Do you outright avoid minors that you’re attracted to?
from “Mira”; answers coming on 05 May 2024
Questions with answers
What do you think about including information on MAPs in public school health classes? Do you think such teaching should start in middle or high school? How could you get information on therapy to these kids, confidentially?
from “Alison”; answers published on 21 April 2024
If you had the opportunity to receive therapy with no risks whatsoever, what qualities would make for the ideal therapist? Additionally, for those who already have a therapist or want one, what would your treatment goals be?
from “K”; answers published on 14 April 2024
If you were able to clear up one misconception about pedophilia, or any other form of attraction to minors, what would it be? Additionally, how has that misconception affected you?
from “K”; answers published on 07 April 2024
How do you guys feel about Chris Hansen’s show, as well as people who record encounters with people who they claim were having conversations with underage people? Do you support or oppose recording confrontations with people who try meeting up with minors?
from “Andrew Gross”; answers published on 31 March 2024
Why children? Why not people your age?
from “Pluh”; answers published on 24 March 2024
Given the massive stigma pedophilia has across all social media, and the reporting laws present in many countries, many pedophiles have to choose whether to risk outing themselves or attempting to cope on their own. While I understand there is no one-size-fits-all solution, what are some of the coping mechanisms that have worked for you? Can one approach this issue like one would approach an addiction (to, say, alcohol and nicotine)?
from “Brazillian sympathizer”; answers published on 17 March 2024
How many paedophiles struggle with suicidal ideation? Have any of you struggled with it? How great did these suicidal feelings become?
from “Leonard”; answers published on 10 March 2024
What are your opinions on POCD? Did you first think it was POCD if you were in denial about being a pedophile? What made you think it wasn’t POCD? Can someone have POCD and be a pedophile at the same time?
from “Mexican Girl”; answers published on 03 March 2024
How has being part of Virped or any other pedophile based support group helped you out, if at all?
from “Anonymous YouTuber”; answers published on 25 February 2024
Do pedophiles have children? What is that like? [If you don’t have children, do you want to have? Why/why not?]
from “Swedish podcaster”; answers published on 18 February 2024
Are you out to your families about it? If so, what is their reaction? [If not, why?]
from “Anonymous YouTuber”; answers published on 11 February 2024
[Regarding] fictional ‘child pornography’, in the form of writing or drawings/animation, where the subjects cannot be mistaken for real life people, that is to say - where no consent has been abused and no underaged person has been involved directly in the production of the media. How do you personally feel about the use of it? Can/does it act as an outlet that help compartmentalize and easy any possibly disturbing impulses to act out towards children or does it blur the moral lines too much for you?
from “Arto”; answers published on 4 February 2024
What should pedophilia be labeled as? Should we call it a sexual preference or mental disorder? Anything in between or something else entirely?
from “Swedish podcaster”; answers published on 28 January 2024
Do pedophiles have regular relationships?
from “Swedish podcaster”; answers published on 22 January 2024
Many adults with paedophilic orientation report experiencing sexual desire and emotional bonding towards children. Presumably, the sexual desire diminishes or vanishes once the child ages or undergoes puberty. My curiosity lies in the fate of the emotional bond in this context. How long does the emotional bonding endure after that? In non-paedophilic individuals, when lust is gone, one still observes a relatively consistent physical appearance in their love object, which helps in retaining the memories of erotic feelings. I suppose for paedophilic individuals, this experience might be different, as within a brief span, the minor transforms into someone markedly dissimilar and sometimes hardly recognizable, both physically and character-wise. What does that emotional journey look like?
from “Curious girl”; answers published on 15 January 2024
When did you decide to talk to someone? Who did you talk to?
from “Two Italian Journalists”; answers published on 8 January 2024
What was your initial reaction upon discovering that you were in fact attracted to minors? Did you simply accept it or was there some form of internal wrestling?
from “Anonymous YouTuber”; answers published 1 January 2024
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