Being Helpful and Getting Help

For everyone:

Keeping children SAFE is our HIGHEST PRIORITY. If you are concerned that a child might be in danger, go to Stop It NOW or contact your local police.

Whenever the subject comes up, make it a point to mention that pedophiles don’t choose their sexual orientation, that they can’t change it, that there are lots of pedophiles who never have sexual contact with children, and that to despise such virtuous pedophiles is unfair and unhelpful.

For anyone who relates to pedophiles personally, especially therapists, see us as people with painful life problems rather than as mere potential sex offenders. By all means, help us stay on the right side of the law, but help us lead happy, rewarding lives as well.

Spread the word; let people know about our web site.

If you are a pedophile:

DO NOT HAVE SEXUAL CONTACT WITH A CHILD. If in any doubt, avoid being alone with children who you find attractive so as to avoid temptation.

Join our discussion group (use the 'contact' link on the main page).

If you feel that you could use help from a mental health professional, find a competent therapist.

We do not have personal knowledge of the professionals affiliated with any organizations below, but they should provide a good place for you to start your search.

Most jurisdictions have laws that require therapists to report men who are attracted to children if the therapist believes that the person is a danger to children. Before revealing your personal situation, you should ask your therapist about the conditions under which he or she would break confidentiality and notify the police or others. You should be able to ask confidentiality-related questions over the phone before making an appointment or even revealing your name.

  • The Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers (ATSA) - tel.: (503) 643-1023
    A national professional association of specialists in the field of sexual abuser treatment. Although the therapists primarily treat pedophiles who have had sex with children, we are told that many of the therapists who are listed have the skill and desire to treat child-celibate pedophiles as well. For a referral contact them by phone or email. No identifying information required.

  • Stop It Now  - tel.: (888) PRE-VENT
    An organization dedicated to prevention of child sexual abuse. Includes helpful resources for pedophiles who wish to avoid offending.

  • Association for Sexual Abuse Prevention  - tel.: (541) 891-6168
    Provides referrals to mental health professionals as well as counseling services via Skype.

  • Prevention Project Dunkelfeld tel.: +49/30/450 529 450
    Located in Germany. The Prevention Project Dunkelfeld (PPD) provides confidential treatment free of charge for individuals who have a partial or exclusive sexual preference in terms of pedophilia or hebephilia and seek therapeutic help. The goal of the therapy is to cope with problems in dealing with the particular sexual preference. From a patient's point of view, focus is on controlling one's own behaviour in order to prevent child sexual abuse and child pornography offending. The therapeutic procedure integrates behavioural therapy and sexological approaches and also includes the option for pharmaceutical support.

  • Circles of Support and Accountability 
    Located in Canada. Groups of volunteers who provide assistance and social support and who, in turn, receive support and supervision from professionals.

    A professional organization of sex educators, therapists and counsellors. The web site includes a 'Locate a Professional' function, some of whom have expertise with pedophilia.

  • SSTAR 
    A community of professionals who have clinical interests in human sexual concerns, including pedophilia. The web site includes a therapist directory.